Chapter Nine ~ Learning the Steps of the Dance

"But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5:24


All Christians are called to submit. We are called to submit to the Lord, to each other and to the authorities that God has placed over us. Christ is our perfect example of joyful willing submission. The more we know of Christ, the better our understanding of what true biblical submission looks like. As wives we are to follow the lead of our husband as the church follows the lead of Christ. God designed submission for our good and His glory. So what is submission? It is the laying down of self and yielding to another. I am to embrace my husband's calling and vision and make it my own. I don't lose who I am, I bring my gifts and strengths to benefit my husband. How can we do this? It is only by the grace of God. As we submit to our heavenly Father, we will be able to submit to our earthly husband.


I haven't been relying on the Holy Spirit for the power to submit. I have been depending on my own strength. If I was depending on the Spirit I would ask Him to enable me to have the right attitude about submission. I know that God is faithful and He can give me the right attitude. Why do I fight against Him by not asking for His strength? I struggle with the idea that in order to submit I have to think exactly like my husband, that I have to agree with everything he thinks and does. What does submission look like when it doesn't think the same way? Where is the balance of expressing my own views and opinions yet submitting to Jason's decisions? I feel that if I don't think like him I'm not following him. I'm in a tug a war with the desire to just keep quiet for the sake of peace and the desire to fight for what I think. Both are wrong. I need to share my perspective but once my husband has made the final decision I need to support that with everything that is in me.