"In the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman." 1 Corinthians 11:11
God has intended marriage to be our most intimate relationship here on earth. We are to be united to our spouse so deeply that whatever affects one will affect the other. Because we are so closely bound to our husbands we should strive to make it easy for them to love us. The beauty of this relationship is that we don’t lose our own uniqueness but rather we use our uniqueness to help our husband. In order to experience oneness and intimacy with our husbands we need to get to know them and allow them to know us. God created the act of sex to bring husband and wives together into one flesh physically. God designed sex to be intimate and pleasurable. We are not to rob our spouse in this area. The goal of sex is serving, loving, and helping your husband and treasuring your oneness. Even in our differences we can blend our desires and voice together to praise God and bring Him glory.
When first married my focus was to do my husband good. I was nice and helpful and anxious to do anything to please him. After 14 years of marriage I have settled into a comfortable place where I have forgotten to be nice. It's not like I intend to be mean, but I know he loves me so my tone of voice can be harsh and rough. I no longer greet him with a smile at the door, but instead allow the children to swarm him when he comes in. This chapter was a good reminder for me, I want to make it easy for my husband to love me. Christ is so easy for me to love, He is so gracious and tender to me. I long to be tender and gracious as Christ is.
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